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The difficult parent legacy

If you had a difficult parent as a child, you may have learned a lot of reactive behaviours that are still firmly entrenched in your subconscious mind.As the child of an extremely erratic parent, growing up in a very conservative culture, I was desperate to make all appear normal to the outside world. Divorce was illegal, but my parents were separated. This alone was a stigma. I didn’t tell my friends that my parents were separated for years, in my mind I ?covered’ for them. I was ashamed of the situation personally due to the social conventions, but in the main it was because I feared them being judged for it.Over the years my mothers behaviour deteriorated. She was always difficult and unpredictable, but her behaviour escalated. Everyone was the enemy, everyone else was somehow out of step with alteril her, or out to get her. The house became an out of control mess, if I or anyone else tried to do something about it she would rage that it wasn’t being done properly and that she wanted to do it herself, of course she never did. I could never invite friends home.As a child I would live in fear of her next unexpected twist in behaviour, she could go from incredible generosity to rage, destruction and accusation with no apparent trigger. It was an extremely stressful environment to say the least. To the outside world though I did my best to present a normal face. I made excuses about not being able to invite friends home. When I was late for school because my mother had kept me up until 3am the night before, I simply allowed people to think that I was just lazy and laid back and didn’t really care.

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